What part of 'I'm busy' do you not understand?
Okay so duder from work just isn't getting the picture that I don't want to hang out with him! Yesterday he found out I rode my bike to work and that we were both getting off at the same time so he decided we should ride home together. Ugggghhhh I didn't want to so finally I let some of my co-workers know my dilemma(sp?). I had been keeping this from them because I didn't want it to become a big issue but I was cornered and needed a way out. So one of my co-workers decided a good excuse to get out of it was to tell him I had to cover for her while she went on her dinner break.
5 o'clock comes around and he anxiously walks up to me and tells me its five. I reply back (not looking him in the face) "Oh I have to cover for Sierra until she gets back from her break" he says "How long is her break?" "Just until 5:30". He contemplates this for a moment and then responds in a disappointed voice "Oh thats 15 minutes" another slight pause and I say "ya its not that long, I'll see ya later though okay" he replys back dejectedly "alright see ya later". I avoided looking him in the face the whole time. I felt so bad for lying to him but I just don't want to hang out with him! I mean I know kids who are around his age that I use to baby-sit! Gah
I can totally tell when he is working up the nerve to talk to me at work because his mouth twitches every time I see him and he has this serious look on his face. I don't understand! How much more obvious do I have to be! Does he not get it that I just want to keep our friendship on a work friendship level? I mean what part of 'I'm busy' doesn't he understand? Do I have to say 'I'm washing my hair tonight' or "No I don't want to hang out with you because I went to school to learn how to minister to your age group".
I am flattered really I am but......you know.
posted by Adrienne at
1:41 PM
3 Comments:
I know you've tried to be subtle, but it's obviously not working. Sometimes it's hard but I think you should just tell him straight out and be really nice about it. I took your advice last time and the air has definitely cleared. Being honest is the best thing to do at least then he'll know how you feel and hopefully get over it.
You can do it!!
Love you lots,
Johanna :)
12:04 AM
whats the big deal with bike-riding home with him from work? its not like its a date or anything. whats the worst that will happen? Are you truly repelled by his company?
perhaps just treat him like a friend, and when he actually tries to cross the line then you will have the grounds to say no, whereas if you turn around now and say 'back off' it will just look like you're being mean and perhaps even arrogant in his eyes...
Are you 100% sure that he wants to be more than your friend? Is it possible that he just likes you and maybe could use a friend?
I remember you saying you liked him at first as a friend but it was the age thing that made u uncomfortable...so perhaps u should try not to fixate on the idea that he has a crush on you and try to be his friend?
12:29 PM
T I see your point. But it isn't just the age thing that I am uncomfortable with. Yes their are some mature 20 yr olds that I work with and Dude isn't immature but he isn't mature???
Ya, your right telling him straight up isn't right because their is always the 'what if' aspect and then yes I look arrogant. Hence why I haven't done so thus far.
At first their was a curiosity but then it soon dicipitated(sp?)after the rush of the first date wore off. Their isn't anything within me that draws me to him. And I think he has gotten the picture cuz their was no starry eyed looks today and no stop for a conversation during work. I feel bad but its better. Now I can just go back to my old hum drum life.
10:40 PM
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